There were times in my life when I felt like a volcano.
Rage. Power. A fire inside me that I didn’t fully understand — and that sometimes terrified me.
People see me now, confident and bold, standing in my Dominatrix power. They see the woman who can make a person shake without saying a word, who knows exactly how to read people’s secret desires, who can crack a cane in the air and command absolute silence.
But what most people don’t know is that my Dom persona was born from pain.
A Girl Who Learned to Survive
I grew up on an estate in Vauxhall, London. Confidence wasn’t optional — it was survival.
I went to seven different schools because of bullying. I learned to fight back. To stand tall. To be louder than my fear.
All the traits people admire in me today — the fierce presence, the unapologetic energy — were skills I built because life demanded it.
But survival isn’t the same as peace.
Even when I became a Dominatrix, there was a part of me that still felt misunderstood.
I was powerful… but I wasn’t whole.
I knew how to be dominant. But I didn’t know how to be soft.
I was confident. But I didn’t know how to rest.
I felt alive in the dungeon. But I wanted to feel alive everywhere.
My shadow protected me… but she also kept me disconnected from my own tenderness.
Turning Pain into Power
I took my pain and turned it into creation.
✨ I created STRUT, my masterclass, because I knew the feeling of walking into a room and having everyone stare at you — and not knowing whether to shrink or shine. I wanted women to walk in anywhere like they owned the place.
✨ I created the Power of the Pussy Retreat — because I once wrote a letter to my pussy to release sexual trauma. That infamous Pussy Letter helped me reclaim my body, my erotic energy, and my voice.
✨ I trained as a yoga teacher because I knew the body holds what words can’t express — the pain the mind has buried. I wanted to understand how to help women release trauma, not just with words, but through breath and movement.
✨ I created Mistress Training because I found refuge and freedom in the BDSM world. I wanted other women to experience the power and self-awareness that kink can bring.
✨ And now, I’ve created The Kink Therapy and The Alchemy of Her.
These aren’t just programs. They’re the stages of my own evolution and healing.
I Created My Own Archetype
My Dom persona was my protector.
She helped me survive.
But over time, I realised my Dom wasn’t the whole story.
Because true power comes from integrating ALL parts of yourself — your Dom and your Sub, your rage and your softness, your shadows and your light.
Instead of letting my pain push me into the victim archetype, I used it to create wealth, freedom, and self-mastery.
I created my own archetype.
A woman who can dominate a dungeon… and run her business.
Who can wield a cane… and hold space for healing.
Who can turn her erotic energy into magnetic power — in relationships, money, and life.
Your Shadow Isn’t Your Enemy
So many women feel this same conflict.
Maybe you’re fiery, sexual, bold — but you feel “too much” for the world.
Or maybe you’re strong and capable — but secretly exhausted from holding it all together.
Or maybe your sexual energy feels overwhelming, and you don’t know how to channel it without burning your life down.
This is why I believe your shadow isn’t your enemy. She’s your protector. She’s the part of you that learned how to survive.
But true power comes when you integrate your shadow, instead of letting her run the show.
Because your shadow has gifts to give you.
How Do You Start This Journey?
Here are some questions to begin exploring your shadow:
- When did your shadow first show up to protect you?
- What traits in yourself do you secretly judge as “too much” or “not enough”?
- How do you feel about softness? About vulnerability?
- Who are you beneath the masks you wear?
This work isn’t easy. It takes courage. Because when you change, you might lose the people who only liked the mask.
But freedom is worth it.